Saturday, December 12, 2009

Babies babies everywhere

Now that the semester is winding down I've had some time to catch up with some friends who I haven't seen for awhile. I have 6 lunches scheduled in the next two weeks. Lots of fun. Some of them didn't even know I'm pregnant (I tell ya, my friends just DO NOT gossip. I'm at the point where it's like---just tell everyone you know--please!). As the word continues to spread, I am so touched by continuing acts of kindness. And surprises. A senior colleague called me out of the blue the other day to tell me that her daughter is becoming an SMC! We are having lunch next week. How sweet that she reached out to me.

Then this weekend. Within 24 hours, I learned about 4 other pregnancies among my friends and acquaintances in town! This means that little Fitzwilliam will have lots of playmates! The most exciting thing is that 2 of the 4 announcements are close friends. This is truly astounding and amazing, because both are complete surprises. The first is a dear friend who had twins 2-1/2 years ago after several IVF cycles. So you can imagine their surprise when she discovered she was pregnant this time, with no interventions! I think my friend is feeling a bit scared, what with a set of 2-1/2 year old twins, but at the same time over the moon.

The other friend is even more of a surprise. She is unmarried, but in a relationship. The pregnancy is totally unplanned. I am a little bit concerned for her, just emotionally, because she just recently finalized a divorce, has been seeing this guy for only about 7 months (but it is a very loving relationship as far as I can tell). They also haven't announced their relationship to the world because of her recent divorce AND because they work together. So when she said she was feeling a bit overwhelmed, I could definitely understand! Coming to terms with being pregnant is hard enough without all the added stress!

Both are very early on so for now mum's the word and fingers crossed. Of course I am just so happy at the thought that such close friends will be experiencing motherhood right along with me.

I'm really looking forward to Christmas this year, and it's been YEARS since I've felt this way. I'm just so glad that I've moved forward with the things that I want in my life. For once I feel comfortable with where I am, optimistic, and upbeat.

Fitzw is great. He is SO active (like every time they look for his heartbeat at the dr, they comment about how much he is moving around). I asked my doctor if his activity indicates he will be a very active baby. She said, "yes, likely." Yikes!


Genkicat said...

How wonderful that Fitzw will have so many playmates! And I'm glad he is doing so well. Its funny since today I found out my cousin, who lives nearish me is also going to be a Dad in June! So my baby will have a cousin to play with. I never thought that would happen, and its such a pleasant surprise! I hope you continue to enjoy your pregnancy.

Heather said...

I'm excited about Fitzw's (such a cute nickname!) future playmates, too! I know what you mean--two close friends of mine are newly pregnant as well, and my cousin's baby girl will only be about a year older than my little one when she is born. Yay for the baby boom!!

cmay said...

I'm so excited for you. Now, having had a child, I see how VALUABLE it is to have friends with kids the same age as yours. It will help bond your friendship with them futher and make for great playdates together. Even more reasons to see each other. I've also found it's also excellent to find other SMCs to share experiences with. I have one friend with an 18 mo old daughter. Even though our kids don't play together due to age differences, having the same SMC view point is very helpful and supportive for both of us.